Sunday, October 23, 2011

A LETTER OF BLESSING FOR THE NEW YEAR 5772

from Harav Yitzchak Ginsburgh
(Blogger's note: A friend sent me this and my husband said I should post it here; which I thought was a great idea.)

This coming year, 5772, is the year of “I will make him a helpmate” ( אֶעֱשֶׂה לוֹ עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ ) a most central phrase appearing in the account of man’s creation whose value is 772, the partial and more commonly referred to value of year 5772. Man, in whom lies the purpose of creation, was created on Rosh Hashanah, and on every Rosh Hashanah man is in a sense recreated, and with him the entire world. It follows then, that every Rosh Hashanah, the process of man’s creation and completion with the formation of Everepeats: “Male and female He created them and blessed them and named them [together] ‘Man.’”
Likewise, the mystical Kabbalistic intentions for the holidays of Tishrei—Rosh Hashanah, the Ten Days of Teshuvah, Sukot, and Shemini Atzeret—all revolve around the common theme of Eve’s separation from Adam and their reuniting, face to face, resulting in the union of the supernal facets of male and female, Ze’er Anpin and Nukvei, all allegorically related in the Biblical account of man’s creation.Three levels of domestic relationship
The expression, “I will make him a helpmate,” teaches us the basis for domestic peace (sh’lom bayit). In 5772 we will be blessed with true and inner peace, beginning with every individual Jewish household and ending with the Grand Wedding between the Almighty and the Congregation of Israel.
In Hebrew, the words, “him a helpmate” are three separate words, which describe the three possible states of relationship between a husband and wife (as explained in length in The Mystery of Marriage):
The first word, “[I will make] him” reflects the highest bond between man and woman, also appearing in the phrase, “My beloved is for me, and I am for him.” The sages state that the word “him” (in another related context) refers to a woman, suggesting that the highest state of relating to one’s wife is possible when she is completely devoted to her spouse, himself completely devoted to her and her needs.
The second word, “help” (ezer, in Hebrew) reflects a lesser bond which is based on mutual interest. At this level, a man and woman merit to help each other in all aspects of life. There is a sense of partnership, but their devotion and unification is not perfect.
In the original Hebrew, the third word, translated as “mate” (kenegdo, in Hebrew) actually suggests a state of opposition, a state occurring when the husband has not yet merited a higher relationship. His wife then seems to oppose him in all that he does, but the secret of this opposition is that it is meant to purify and cleanse her husband, subduing his hubris and rectifying his character and deeds.The righteous, the intermediates, and the wicked

Viewed in context of the relationship between the Congregation of Israel and the Almighty, these three levels are reflected in the three books that are opened before God on Rosh Hashanah: the book of the righteous, the book of the intermediates, and the book of the wicked.
The righteous (tzadikim) serve God with complete devotion void of any self‐interest or expectation of reward. They are absolutely dedicated to Him. Indeed the value of the word “him” ( לו ) in Hebrew is 36, the number of righteous individuals alive in every generation.
The intermediate (beinonim) serve God out of a sense of mutual devotion. I help God, as it were, by obeying His commandments, and so He helps me by filling my needs in life. That is why their relationship is similar to the level of “help.” In addition, the intermediate individual does not feel that his ability to subjugate his evil inclination is a sure thing, and therefore becomes consciously aware of his continual need for the Almighty’s help on the spiritual plane.
Finally, the wicked act in opposition to God’s will, reflecting the final state of “[opposing] mate.” Still, this too should be regarded as a relationship between man and God. Deep in their hearts, the improper conduct of the wicked represent a misguided cry against God’s less than clear Presence in the world. Therefore, we are promised by the Almighty, that not a single lost soul shall be eternally lost and the wicked shall also return to God, rebuilding their connection with Him based on a unique and novel relationship. As the sages state, “In the place of ba’alei teshuvah (individuals who have returned to God), the perfectly righteous cannot stand.” בס"ד Past , present, and future
The three stages indicated by the words, “him a helpmate,” connect with another numerical allusion to the year 5772. The partial value of the coming year, 772, also equals the three states of time, “past, present, and future” ( עָבָר הֹוֶה עָתִיד ), suggesting that this year will include the totality of the entire time continuum. Eachtype of individual, be it the righteous, the intermediate, or the wicked, senses time in a different way.
The Hebrew word for “transgression” ( עֲבֵרָה ) stems from the word meaning, “past” ( עָבָר ). Thus, the wicked individual is a transgressor caught in the past, unable to escape the reality of his transgressions, which tend to foster more negative behavior.
The intermediate experiences the present most strikingly, as every moment presents a new difficulty to surmount, a new temptation by the evil inclination which he feels he must overcome. The positive outcome of these clear and present challenges depends on the individual’s ability to dismiss past failures and not expect a rosy future free of hardship.
Even in the present moment, the righteous individual serenely experiences the promise of the wholly good and pure future, a future time in which the evil inclination will be no more, and God’s final purpose of, “I shall remove the spirit of evil from the earth,” has become a reality.Unification and rectification

Indeed, the challenge we face is to unite all three types of individuals by revealing that only together do the righteous, the intermediate, and the wicked constitute a congregation, and that time is made up of all three states: past, present, and future. When crowning God as our King on Rosh Hashanah, we rectify all three aspects of time in our consciousness. We can then truly say that, “God is King, God was King, God will be King forever and ever.”
When all aspects of time come together and become equally accessible, new dynamics are revealed. It is then that we discover that the righteous do not only dizzily experience the future, they can actually utilize the power of the far past—the great spiritual heritage imbued within our souls by previous generations—to empower the near future, making sure that their next act will perfectly align with God’s will.
Contrastingly, the ba’al teshuvah, the once wicked individual, through firm trust that the Almighty will eventually (in what seems the distant future) purify all souls, is freed from the frozen past of his transgressions. He is empowered by the future to reinterpret yesterday’s sins (the near past, i.e., all of his life to date, as present in his memory), transforming transgression into positive energy.
The two new dynamics revealed this year will be that of the righteous individual flowing from the (distant) past to the (near) future, and the once wicked individual turned ba’al teshuvah traveling from the (distant) future into his (near) past. Both pass each other in the present, imbuing the service of the intermediate individuals with new meaning, energy, and purpose. Each of us should see him or her self as an intermediate, focusing on the present, but with a temporal consciousness that is timeless, able to connect with past, present, and future at every moment. This is always true, but all the more so this year, 5772. This consciousness will empower us to be strengthened by the past (and rectify it where needed), to see the future (and utilize its energy), all in order to do the right thing in the present moment. We will then see how, “I will make him a helpmate” describes a single reality, all positive and willful, made complete by the multicolored character of different paths in the service of God, all expressing and rectifying the relationship between the Jewish People and the Almighty.
It is customary to end with words of blessing, also related to the uniqueness of the coming year: The full value of 5772 is the product of 222 and 26. 26 is the value of God’s essential Name, Havayah, while 222 isthe value of the word, “spoke” ( וַיְדַבֵּר ). Thus, this year’s full value alludes to the very common phrase,“God spoke….” This phrase expresses God’s affinity for the Jewish people as He reveals His willthrough clear (explicit) and direct speech. This phrase appears exactly 100 times in the Bible hinting to the 100 blessings which we will all merit to receive in God’s revealed (explicit) goodness, every day of he year 5772, blessings in life, livelihood, and family.
With blessings for a good inscription and seal, for a good and sweet year, in both matter and spirit,
Rabbi Yitzchak Ginsburg

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Prohibitions Relating to Speech

BE"H

This is the 5th installment in a series about improving our speech, l'ilui nishmat Saul Bruckner, a'h.

The following is taken from a recent Hakhel email:

D. In last week's Haftara, the Navi Hoshea (14:2,3), after urging us to do Teshuva (Shuva Yisroel!) immediately instructs us on how to do Teshuva with the words "Kechu Imachem Devorim Veshuvu El Hashem--take words with you and return to Hashem. We must take our words with us--we must realize (as the Vidui Booklet points out) that a GREAT NUMBER of the sins we mention in the Vidui of Yom Kippur have to do with misuse and abuse of that great power that distinguishes us from animal--our power of speech. The Chofetz Chaim teaches that if we are more circumspect with our speech, we can be free of the following Issurim:

1. Lashon Hora--brings many, many other aveiros along with it and can destroy relationships, families and lives
2. Rechilus--as above, and perhaps even more hurtful to the person
3. Sheker-while Hashem's seal is Emes!
4. Chanufa--including egging on...'you're right!'
5. Laitzanus--mockery, poking fun, ridicule
6. Ona'as Devorim--hurtful or insulting words
7. Halbanas Panim--one reader pointed out that embarrassing another in public causes one to forfeit his share in Olam Haba--and then asked if this is so --is this the greatest aveira--even greater than Chillul Hashem....
8. Divrei Ga'avah--words of arrogance--even though the sign of greatness is humility (Iggeres Haramban)
9. Divrei Machlokes--fighting, argumentative words
10. Divrei Ka'as --words of anger that you won't be able to take back.

Perhaps we can keep this list around near a place(s) where we can look at it before we are about to make a statement or comment, or have a conversation, that is not within our usual manner of speech. Remember the VERY FIRST words of instruction of the Navi--Kechu Imachem Devorim--VeShuvu el Hashem! May you hear your success--with your very own ears!

Please feel free to contact me with any questions and I can try to answer/clarify them as best as I can. If not I can attempt to refer you to an authority who can.

Thank you for reading,
Esther Asna

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Nivul Peh Causes Troubles to Increase

BE"H

This is the 4th installment in a series about improving our speech, l'ilui nishmat Saul Bruckner, a'h.

So here is the aforementioned passage as cited in Rav Pesach Eliyahu Falk's book, Oz veHadar Levusha, or Modesty - An Adornment for Life. He mentions the Gemara in Shabbos 33a, which he translates on page 202, #5, paragraph 1: "As a result of speaking nivul peh, troubles increase, harsh decrees are made, young people die, orphans and widows cry for help and are not answered."

In the following paragraph, Rav Falk explains that these punishments refer to a type of withdrawal of G-d's Hashgacha Pratit, or watchful eye, so to speak, from us. I hope Rav Falk doesn't mind my quoting and paraphrasing his book.

Please feel free to contact me with any questions and I can try to answer/clarify them as best as I can. If not I can attempt to refer you to an authority who can.

Thank you for reading,
Esther Asna

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Nivul Peh Taints One's Neshama -

BE"H

This is the 3rd installment in a series about improving our speech, l'ilui nishmat Saul Bruckner, a'h. This is Part 2 to yesterday's Part 1 from Halacha for Today.

The following is taken from http://www.frumtoronto.com/Blogger.asp?BlogCategoryID=96&ShowEntryID=5982

It's from the site and email list of http://www.halachafortoday.com

2) Furthermore, Nivul Peh taints a Jew’s Neshama. (See Chofetz Chaim in Sefer Nidchei Yisroel Perek 20)One who [regularly] uses Nivul Peh is risking having his Tefilos rejected by Hashem and causing his Neshama to not be taken up to heaven when he goes to sleep at night and thus losing out on the nightly cleansing that a Jew’s Neshama usually receives, spiritually an extremely dangerous thing to miss out on. (See Sefer Chareidim ibid. where he also refers to Nivul Peh as "Avi Avos Hatumah, the most severe kind of impurity)

Using Nivul Peh can unfortunately reverse seventy years’ worth of good judgments against a person and cause him much suffering; whereas controlling one’s mouth can reverse seventy years’ worth of bad judgments and save a person much suffering. (See Talmud Shabbos 33a where the Gemara enumerates many other consequences of using Nivul Peh. Merubah Midah Tova M’Midas Puraniyos, good measures are always given more abundantly than their converse. See Rashi Shmos 20:6)

Blogger's note: What amazing hashgacha - I just ran into the above-referenced passage in the Gemara in Rav Falk's book on Tzniut. More on that tomorrow, G-d willing.

Please feel free to contact me with any questions and I can try to answer/clarify them as best as I can. If not I can attempt to refer you to an authority who can.

Thank you for reading,
Esther Asna

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Defiling the Mouth in Halacha

BE"H

This is the 2nd installment in a series about improving our speech, l'ilui nishmat Saul Bruckner, a'h

The following is taken from http://www.frumtoronto.com/Blogger.asp?BlogCategoryID=96&ShowEntryID=5982

It's from the site and email list of http://www.halachafortoday.com


Halacha For Today:
Tuesday, 1st Day Rosh Chodesh Elul 5771
August 30, 2011
1) It is forbidden to [unnecessarily] talk about impure things and actions or use words that refer to impure actions. (See Sefer Chareidim Perek 24:49)This is referred to as "Nivul Peh, defiling the mouth".Besides for the fact that such speech will lead to impure thoughts, such [unnecessary] speech in its own right is a sin, as the Torah (Devarim 23:15) says "V’Lo Yir’eh Becha Ervas Davar, and you shall not see anything revealed". The word "Davar" also means "word" and Chazal learn from this that a word (i.e. speaking) regarding Ervah is also forbidden. (See Talmud Yerushalmi Terumos Perek 1:6. See also Chareidim ibid., Mesilas Yesharim Perek 11 and Midrash Raba Vayikrah Perek 24:6)

Please feel free to contact me with any questions and I can try to answer/clarify them as best as I can. If not I can attempt to refer you to an authority who can. Part 2 of this subsection coming tomorrow, G-d willing.

Thank you for reading,
Esther Asna

Monday, October 3, 2011

Nivul Peh - A Definition

The following explanation of Nivul Peh was taken from:

http://www.yeshiva.org.il/ask/eng/?orderby=3


Nivul Peh Rabbi Gideon Weitzman
Adar I 6, 5771
:1) Could I safely say that nivul peh is speech which illustrates sexual conduct or that insites lust in the average individual?2) Is speech that reference to excretory organs or excrement also nivul peh?If not, what isur is it? where it it written that reference to excretory organs or excrement is assur?I’m not asking bc I have doubt, but because I want a source.

Answer:Shalom U'verachah,The Ramban explains that Hebrew is lashon hakodesh because it does not have names for the reproductive organs, thus if we strive to be holy we should not explicitly name these organs, unless neccesary for education or in a medical context etc. but not just in every day speech. Any discussion of inappropriate matters of modesty can be considered nibul peh. This includes swearing and cursing. The Gemara even speaks about how the Torah added words so as to say the animal that is not clean and not call it an "unclean animal." Kol Tuv

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Rabbi Yudin on Shofar vs. the Mouth

With G-d's help this is the first of our series about improving our speech, in memory of Saul Bruckner, may he rest in peace.

Rabbi Yudin has a great message about the ill effects of problematic speech in the following Dvar Torah:

"The Bais Halevi (Drush 15) notes a startling understanding of shofar as prayer. A prayer is as effective as the source from which it emanates. Indeed, the spoken word is the distinctive mark of man. The Torah (Braishis 2:7) states that Hashem blew into man’s nostrils the soul of life, which the Targum translates as "ruach mi-mal’lah" (a spirit of intelligent speech). However, over the course of time, man sullies and misuses his divine gift of speech. Lashon Harah, r’chilus, and nivul peh are not only forbidden forms of speech, but they limit the effectiveness and proficiency of the mouth. And thus the quality of the spoken prayer is often significantly diminished. Therefore, Hashem in His kindness allows us to communicate with a region that is deeper than the spoken words, namely the ruach – the spirit of man. When Hashem blew of His existence into man, it meant that part of the divine is present in man. It is from this holy and pure source that the sounds of the shofar emanate. As this part of man is more holy, the prayer that issues forth is holier, and thus the concluding blessing asking G-d to accept the shofar sound of His people Israel with mercy is most understandable."

This is taken from the following page:
http://www.torahweb.org/torah/2002/moadim/ryud_roshHashana.html

Shana Tova and Hatima Tova,
EAC

Attempting to Bring Mashiach by Working on our Speech

H-shem Sefatay Tiftakh, Ufi Yagid Tehilatekha. H-shem, open my lips and my mouth tells your praise. Our mouths are holy vessels. Let's keep them clean and use them for holy words, kind words, encouraging words. H-shem has endowed some with a talent to use language to write and speak. Let's do so in an elevated fashion as befitting our status as the Chosen People, as well as people created in G-d's image. It's a new year, the Aseret Yemei Teshuva. What better time to start than now?

Today I had an idea after being hit with an idea that we need to work on this area that I want to do something to help myself and others strengthen ourselves in our speech. So with G-d's help, I will try over the next while to locate sources about this subject to feature here.

Thanks to my husband, RC, and "Ben Olam Haba" of the Halacha for Today emails for his encouragement to write this.

Shanah Tovah U'Metuka,
EAC (Aimee Ben-Ezra Cohen)

This section of the blog is in memory of and l'ilui Nishmat Saul Bruckner, a'h who gave importance to utilizing our power of speech positively. If anyone has other ideas to contribute to this tribute/effort, please let me know and please pass on to other E.R. Murrow alumni if possible.

Thoughts of teshuva, blogs and improving our speech

Dear Readers, if you are out there, whoever you are :)
Shavua tov and hatima tova,

I want to do something for the cause of cutting down on nivul peh. I was thinking of writing a blog post but not sure where I want it to go. There are beautiful Jewish neshamot that I know of, some with blogs of their own, and I feel sad when they have a writing or speaking talent and use inappropriate language to express themselves. I wish I knew what to say or how to say it. At one point I wanted to get people in on sponsoring a page in one of those Positive Word Power books but I didn't get any takers. It was in memory of a high school principal by the name of Saul Bruckner a'h (a secular Jew in a public HS) and one thing that stands out that I remember from him is that he was against foul language; saying that English has so many words for expressing onesself that why do we need to use the inappropriate ones, or something to that effect. Some things could be to find articles on the topic and post backlinks to them here and in other places, or get together people to sponsor something at Chofetz Chaim Heritage. But how can I raise awareness?
Any ideas?
Please let me know.

Thank you,
EA